2017 Reflection and 2018 Goal Setting

2017 Reflection and 2018 Goal Setting

2018 Goal Setting

At the beginning of 2017, my husband Matt and I sat down and set our goals. It was like stumbling around in the dark as we had no idea how to set a worthwhile and achievable goal. Our goals were set with the experience we had at the time (not much in terms of self improvement) – this was before I began my Happiness Project.

As we sat down this year, we discussed how some of our 2017 goals were beyond our control so we felt a little disheartened that we hadn’t achieved them.

 

To give you some context, our 2017 goals included:

Matt’s 2017 goals:

Give money to Jono (his best friend who is a stock broker)   

Do a L-sit to handstand

Complete diploma by December 2018   

Land a new job ✕

My 2017 goals:

Win a permanent job (I am currently on contract)   

Complete 2 uni subjects   

Do a 10 second handstand   

Joint 2017 Goals:

Short (this year): Build buffers (savings)  

Medium (2 – 3 years): Make a baby

Long (3+ years): Live by the beach

Firstly, with the knowledge that I have now – it is interesting to see how our priorities at the time were gym based/physical goals. I cringe as I look at them as that is of the least importance to me now!!! In May, I had my major meltdown of 2017. Since then, I have seen a total shift in my priorities and the way I live my life. This has seen me totally disengage from the gym, only really finding joy in it again in the last couple of months. In addition to that, we set goals such as ‘win a permanent role,’ ’land a new job’ or our medium term goal ‘make a baby.’ Unfortunately, all these goals are actually outcomes based and all these ended up being out of our control. There were no permanent roles at my school and Matt had the same problem at his work. I ended up scratching our medium term goal to ‘make a baby’ off the board in the heat an angry melt down, where I couldn’t bear looking at it any longer. This year presented me with health challenges that have affected my overall hormone balance and fertility.

What some of these goals left us with was disappointment and a sense of failure. What I have learned from our 2017 goals is to create achievable goals that are purely dependent on the decisions and choices that I make. Matt and I didn’t do anything wrong, we were doing the best we could with the knowledge that we had. But now, as more “enlightened” people our goal setting strategy and process has been overhauled and improved.

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Creating my 2018 goals came with the assistance of my new favourite author Melissa Ambrosini. I was lucky enough to seek out her blog after reading her book ‘Mastering your Mean Girl’ and saw her epic post ‘Manifest your dreams and create an epic 2018.’ This post included a comprehensive list of reflecting questions ahead of a huge list of goals and was followed by some affirmation creation and writing a letter to your future self. I highly recommend you follow the link above and set aside an hour or two to reflect on the year that passed and plan an epic 2018!

Below I have included some of my 2017 reflections and our new 2018 goals. I reflected on  my own but also chatted to Matt along the way and had lengthy discussions about many of the questions as I sought his ideas and input and hashed out my own thoughts. Matt and I sat together last week on a park bench looking out over the water and Sydney city and set our goals. We plan to print them off and pop them on our fridge to keep us motivated and accountable. I urge you to do the same.

REFLECT

What do you want to let go of?

Anger towards my father, anxiety for the things I can not control, anger toward people who are no longer in my life.

What would you like to stop doing from last year?

Putting myself down, negative inner self-talk, criticising my body, overthinking infertility, googling absolutely everything, gossiping, talking behind people’s backs or allowing others to do it around me, using too much social media instead of being in the moment.

What is something you would like to start doing?

In 2018 I want to get involved with a charity by dedicating my time. I want to improve how I serve others in a more productive way (Taking care of  Matt and offering advice/opinions in regards to health and wellbeing for my family and friends)

CELEBRATE

What did you birth or create in 2017?

Happiness project, my blog, veggie patch, work projects

What were the 3 best things that happened in 2017?

I got married, bought my dog  Lily, travelled to Bali, started my new job (okay thats 4!!)

What have you achieved or what are you most proud of?

Outcomes associated with my Happiness Project, completed uni subjects  and invited into Golden Key Association due to my results, progressed in my career

What have you learned?

To take time to heal, be grateful and mindful, reflection is key, all things happen for a reason and in their own time

What have been your top 3 biggest realisations/lessons?

Opening up and connecting with others heals wounds

Everything happens in it’s own time 

Happiness doesn’t just come your way, you need to work for it

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How have you grown?

I am more grateful and mindful, my training and yoga is more balanced,  I have opened up emotionally and become less rigid

Describe 2017 in 3 words?

Difficult, loving, enlightening

What are you most grateful for from this year?

My husband Matt, family and  friends, My Happiness Project, yoga

What are 5 words to best describe how you want to feel in 2018?

Confident, present, spiritual, happy, calm, accepting (okay that’s 6)

What are 1-3 health goals you would like to achieve?

Adri Matt
Practise self love to love my body daily (yoga, meditation, remove toxins, nourish my body)

Be in the moment (less social media, mind in the past and future, meditation, stop the worry)

See setbacks as opportunities (see the lesson in every experience)

Release expectations  (work on desire not expectation, appreciation not expectation)

Be more in the moment

Apply strategies to minimise worrying  about things out of your control

See setbacks as opportunities

 

 

What are 1-3 career goals you would like to achieve?

Adri Matt
Complete 2 uni subjects

Work towards a permanent SLC role (complete projects, network, look out for jobs)
Work towards passion for health and wellbeing (reading self-improvement and health books, yoga teacher training)

Enrol in study (diploma or emerging leaders academy)
Actively work towards deciding a new career path

What are 1-3 financial goals you would like to achieve?

Adri Matt
Eliminate all bad debt – Pay off car

Save a minimum $50,000 (combined) by end of December

Continue to improve at not spending unnecessarily

Eliminate all bad debt – Pay off car

Save a minimum $50,000 (combined) by end of December

Regularly review investments and finance and adapt if needed

What are 1-3 self-love goals you would like to achieve?

Adri Matt
Develop self-love muscle (work towards implementing  self love time daily and a self-care day weekly)

Develop a habit of meditation and/or yoga every morning

Improve inner self-talk and master my mean girl

Run my own race

Improve mindset – read self-improvement books

 

What are 1-3 relationship goals you would like to achieve?

Adri Matt
Show quality  affection more often

Communicate clearly

Give more proofs of love

Make more commitments for date nights  (surprises plans)

Show proofs of love (kisses goodbye, say “I love you” more often)

Do you want to travel this year? If yes, where do you want to go?

I would love to take a trip to Tasmania or New Zealand after Christmas time

What are 2-3 hobbies that you would like to explore and make more time for next year?

Blogging, hiking, cooking, gardening, essential oils, health and wellbeing, yoga (I know, I’m an overachiever)

What will you commit to not doing in 2018?

Using social media most of the day, gossiping, using chemicals on skin and in the house

 

What will you make more time for?

Yoga, meditation, blogging, essential oils

How do you want to do things differently next year?

Be more spiritual

Be open and vulnerable,

Serve myself and others

How can you give more to yourself next year? What would that look like specifically?

Do things that are more self serving and that serve others

Get rid of toxic and negative things that do not serve my truth (people, food, objects, chemicals)

Stop living in the past and future – live in the present

What is one word you want to describe 2018?

Spiritual

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MY 2018 AFFIRMATIONS

Everything obstacle is an opportunity in disguise – Overcoming obstacles is expanding awareness

I can control how I feel and respond in this moment

I am enough

I love all of me

Appreciation, not expectation

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